Unpack Your Shared Story, Build a Stronger Bond.
Couples Therapy in Dallas & Online Texas
Loving someone doesn’t mean things will automatically be easy. Conflict happens. It can be something small, like the same arguments on repeat. Or there can be a big event like infidelity, coming out, or becoming parents that triggers deep conflict. Or maybe the disconnection just crept in slowly, without you noticing it was happening, until there was a gulf between you.
Your relationship deserves care and attention, not just repair. Let’s re-learn how to reconnect.
What Is Couples Counseling?
Couples counseling isn’t about finding out who’s right or who’s wrong. It’s about learning how to understand one another more deeply, fostering genuine empathy and connection. Whether you’re dating, married, co-parenting, nesting, or somewhere in between, couples therapy can help you get curious and truly reconnect with each other. My expertise in relationship counseling focuses on your unique dynamic.
Couples May Seek Therapy To:
- Improve communication and conflict resolution skills.
- Navigate trust, betrayal, or major life changes together.
- Explore identity, intimacy, or sexual connection within the partnership.
- Rebuild connection after periods of distance or emotional detachment.
- Make important decisions about the future of the relationship with clarity.
- Develop stronger emotional safety and mutual respect within your bond.
Every relationship tells a story. At Violet Counseling, I'm here to help you understand yours, and collaboratively imagine new, healthier ways forward together.
Signs You Might Want Support
It's natural for relationships to face challenges, but when these challenges become persistent, it might be time for dedicated support. My experience as a couples therapist in Dallas and online across Texas helps me recognize these patterns in relationships.
Common Indicators You Could Benefit from Couples Counseling:
- Conversations frequently turn into arguments or emotional shutdowns, leaving issues unresolved.
- The "spark" is gone, and you feel more like roommates than partners.
- There’s been a breach of trust, and you’re unsure how to genuinely move forward.
- You feel misunderstood, dismissed, or emotionally alone within the relationship.
- You’re struggling with sex, intimacy, or differing needs in these areas.
- You’re navigating identity changes, parenting challenges, or major life transitions as a couple.
- You want to feel more like a cohesive team, but don’t know how to get there on your own.
How I Support Couples
I approach couples counseling with deep respect and curiosity for the complexity of relationships. I don’t take sides. Instead, we'll get curious about the cycle you’re both caught in, and work together to collaboratively make something new. My expertise is in guiding you toward mutual understanding and growth.
My Approach at Violet Counseling Uses:
- Narrative Therapy: To help you uncover the relationship stories you've inherited, absorbed, or co-created, and collaboratively rewrite the ones that no longer serve you as a couple.
- Person-Centered & Strengths-Based Approaches: To highlight the inherent care, resilience, and shared values within your relationship, offering a compassionate space where your unique dynamic leads the way.
- Queer and Poly-Affirming Practice: My commitment is to provide inclusive and deeply affirming care for relationships of all structures and identities, including queer couples, polyamorous, and non-monogamous relationships.
I'll hold space for each of your individual voices while also tending to the relationship as its own living, breathing entity, fostering emotional safety and trust.
Got Questions? We've Got Answers! (FAQs)
Violet Counseling uses three evidence-based couples therapy methods: Narrative Therapy (for rewriting unhelpful relationship stories), Person-Centered & Strengths-Based approaches (highlighting existing relationship strengths), and Queer/Poly-Affirming practices (for inclusive relationship structures including LGBTQIA+, polyamorous, and non-monogamous partnerships). Key Benefits: These methods specifically address communication breakdowns, trust issues, intimacy problems, and emotional disconnection through collaborative exploration rather than blame-focused approaches. Couples typically experience improved conflict resolution, deeper emotional connection, and stronger team dynamics within the first few sessions. Relationship Types Served: Dating couples, married partners, co-parenting relationships, nesting partnerships, queer couples, polyamorous relationships, and non-traditional relationship structures.
Clear Warning Signs: You should consider couples therapy if you experience: frequent arguments that escalate or lead to emotional shutdowns, feeling like roommates rather than romantic partners, unresolved trust breaches or infidelity, persistent feelings of being misunderstood or dismissed, ongoing sexual or intimacy disconnection, or inability to navigate major life transitions together as a team. Professional Assessment: These patterns indicate when relationship self-help strategies aren't sufficient and professional intervention becomes necessary for relationship stability and growth. Early Intervention Benefits: Couples therapy is most effective when sought proactively during relationship stress rather than waiting until problems become severe or entrenched.
Specialized Expertise: Queer and poly-affirming couples therapy at Violet Counseling provides inclusive care that understands diverse relationship structures, identity intersections, and unique challenges facing LGBTQIA+ and non-monogamous couples. Therapist Qualifications: Led by a genderqueer/non-binary therapist with lived experience in diverse relationship dynamics, providing firsthand understanding of navigating identity within partnerships, coming out processes, and non-traditional relationship structures. Unique Advantages: Couples never need to educate their therapist about their relationship structure or identities, ensuring sessions focus entirely on relationship healing rather than basic education about LGBTQIA+ or polyamorous dynamics. Specialized Areas: Identity changes within relationships, navigating multiple partnerships, addressing internalized homophobia/transphobia, and building authentic intimacy across diverse relationship configurations.
Clinical Effectiveness: Research demonstrates virtual couples therapy delivers equivalent outcomes to in-person sessions for communication improvement, conflict resolution, trust rebuilding, and intimacy enhancement. Technical Specifications: Sessions conducted through secure, HIPAA-compliant video platforms ensuring complete privacy and professional therapeutic environment for sensitive relationship discussions. Practical Benefits: Virtual therapy eliminates geographic barriers for specialized LGBTQIA+ and poly-affirming care throughout Texas, reduces scheduling conflicts for busy couples, and provides access to relationship counseling in the comfort of your private space. Ideal Candidates: Particularly effective for couples seeking specialized affirming therapy unavailable locally, those with transportation challenges, conflicting schedules, or preference for discussing intimate relationship issues from home.
Session Structure: Couples therapy sessions focus on understanding relationship cycles and patterns rather than determining fault or blame. Sessions explore communication styles, conflict resolution approaches, and collaborative problem-solving techniques. Therapeutic Process: Initial sessions assess relationship dynamics, identify recurring patterns, and establish therapeutic goals. Ongoing sessions work on skill-building, emotional safety, and rebuilding connection through guided exercises and interventions. Therapist Role: The therapist maintains neutrality while facilitating mutual understanding, emotional safety, and collaborative growth. No sides are taken; instead, the focus remains on the relationship system and both partners' needs. Expected Outcomes: Couples typically develop improved communication skills, better conflict resolution abilities, increased emotional intimacy, stronger trust, and enhanced teamwork within their relationship. Session Frequency: Most couples benefit from weekly sessions initially, transitioning to bi-weekly or monthly sessions as relationship stability and skills improve.